It is just about that time of year — late February, early March — as we transition out of cuffing season. Now, that dude or dudette that showed you interest over the last two months has started ghosting you and you are unsure why. Not only are you feeling horrible, you probably think it is all your fault. Could it be something I said? Did I disappoint? Was my Valentine’s Day performance a dud? It is especially difficult hearing someone tell you they are totally into you on Valentine’s Day, the most romantic day of the year, and suddenly not hearing someone talk to you for the next 24 hours.

I personally got broken up with on Valentine’s day, so I get it. In my case I was getting ghosted while we were still together, so I REALLY get it. This phenomenon is something that our parents did not have to deal with in such a way as our generation, so talking to them about it is pointless. The best advice I can give, and what I have been trying to do, is stay busy, do things that make you happy and you used to enjoy before you even met them. Believe it or not, I saw a Tik Tok that really set in stone a good mentality to have. In the case of a girl or guy that you are interested in, if they want to talk to you, they will. If they are ghosting you, then they do not want to talk to you, and therefore you should stop hanging on by a thread. This sounds like amazing advice coming from myself, and it is too bad I do not follow it.

One thing I have heard is that the rebound is the most important part of the breakup, and the only surefire way to move on. The rebound is traditionally someone you either have ghosted yourself or someone you will regret ever being with immediately after the fact, but still, boy or girl, a crucial part of the grieving process. After two weeks with my current rebound total, you would probably think I am a 5’6” point guard trying to guard Shaquille O’Neal, but it is not about your board total in the first half, only your final stat line matters, and thus you have to box out and shoot your shot to make a comeback.

Anyway, getting back to the point of getting over heartbreak, it is certainly not easy but you will be able to get through it. It is okay to be lonely too. Konover sells tiny tubs of ice cream for you to eat away your sorrows if anything else does not help you feel better.